“You don’t choose the day you enter the world and you don’t chose the day you leave. It’s what you do in between that makes all the difference.” Anita Septimus
Lets be very clear! If we are talking about the ultimate Christmas gift for the most important people in your life, you know it can’t be anything that you can buy in any store.
Regardless of your socioeconomic status, the greatest gift you can ever give to anyone is the gift of Self Accountability! But here is where it all gets a little tricky! Your sense of self and reality, meaning everything that forms your perception of what life is and your relationship with it, is uniquely formed by your own interpretation.
And the information that you use to confirm your interpretation, is strategically selected by your brain to support what you believe is actually true. Plus when someone or something challenges our interpretation of what’s real to us (threatened Ego), we go into a defensive state in which the most primitive part of our brain interferes with our rational thinking and consequently blocks all the information that goes against what we believe. Similar to when we go into survival mode. You can call this denial, stubbornness, or like my mother used to say, “You only hear what’s convenient for you”.
Which means that in order for you to give the best GIFT of Self Accountability, meaning the best of you, you have to DO something that increases your ability to understand who you are and your relationship with Life, with a greater level of Clarity and Accuracy than ever before, allowing you then to unleash your greatest potential!!!
Here is a good metaphor for this. You are in a room that has everything you ever need, but you have been using the same glasses your entire life, so the lens in your glasses are covered with layers of old dust. Between what you can actually see thru these glasses and the fear of what it could mean if you don’t see and do things right, you end up with a very limited view of what’s available to you in the room and consequently you’re unable to unleash the potential of what you can do and give to others.
“Remember that you are unique. If that has not been fulfilled, then something wonderful has been lost.” Martha Graham
Although most of us have embedded within who we are this Thriving Desire to Better Ourselves, when your mind’s interpretation is based on a limited point of view and understanding, what you use to measure your potential and gift to others, is NOT accurate at all. It doesn’t mean you don’t have the greatest intentions, it just means you can only give the level of value you are capable to self realize and develop.
According to neuroscientists the effect of decreasing the brain and heart rhythm, the attentive relaxation produces significant increases in the levels of beta-endorphin, norepinephrine and dopamine, linked to feelings of enlarged mental clarity and understanding lasting for hours and even days.
Now imagine how it would impact your life and your relationship with the people you love the most, when you are able to (as your new way of living daily), synchronize your brain and heart to such a state of congruency and coherence? The ramifications are endless…
So what can you do now to turn all this information into the ultimate gift to your wife and children, specially when the holidays are just around the corner?
Number one, remember that everything is energy and information. Which means that everything you do and interact with, in every way and level, is a dynamic exchange of energy. Either increasing your potential or decreasing it. (Develop Discipline)
Number two, everything matters (self awareness, thoughts, conversations, emotions, actions, food, entertainment, activities, congruency, etc.), so the greater your understanding and application, the greater frequency in which your brain and heart operates. (Develop Consistency)
And number three, energy flows where attention goes. As you develop the discipline to be able to choose what you give most of your attention to and the consistency in which you do it (including the kind of information that enters into your heart + brain through all your senses), your ability to be Self Aware becomes the foundation of Higher, Intentional Living. (Develop Self Awareness)
“Good men prefer to be accountable.” Michael Edwardes
I used to believe I was a great husband, father and human being, but the truth is that although I was way above what most people considered normal, I wasn’t even close to the man I am today!
This will impact every aspect of your life. From little things like how you deal with the so called, “personal buttons or issues”, to bigger things like being able to follow through with the things you say are most important to you… specially the commitments you make to your family.
This Christmas I suggest you take a stand and prove to your love ones that you say what you mean, and mean what you say. Do things differently. Instead of looking for the right gift for your wife and children based on the status quo, why don’t you invest in yourself and become the best giver all year round by the way you love and support your family every day, moment by moment!!!
Unleash your potential,