Is It Choice or Is It Destiny?

I remember over 21 years ago driving to work in the morning and right before I lit up a marijuana joint I thought, “There is something wrong with this and at one point I am going to have to face it.” I also remember another time having an affair and as I was leaving her apartment I felt shameful and I knew at that moment that somehow I would have to pay the price for my actions. More recent I remember having to say good night to my children on the phone and I knew at that point that no amount of money was worth missing out on the things I value most in life. The truth is that since I have learned to love and forgive myself, I can probably go on forever, remembering time after time, stories of how at one point in my life I had enough clarity to recognize that I was drifting away from the path, but not necessarily doing anything about it at that particular moment!

But the question is… Was I really choosing to drift away from the path, or was it ALL part of a bigger plan that would eventually lead me to my destiny? Even up to this point, I honestly don’t have the answer to that question. I could tell you that many times while reflecting in silence it is evident to me that everything I have ever gone through has been preparing me for the role that I am now playing. Not only that, it is because of all these experiences that I have become the most magnificent version of me today. I think it is relevant to mention that I have grown the most during the hardest times of the journey, so there must be a reason for the challenges we encounter along the way!

I know that if I google this question, (Is It Choice or Is It Destiny?), I would probably get many answers. But the question is… Do I want someone else’s answers and beliefs or do I want my own? Through my meditation practice I am understanding that our human experience can lead us to believe in many illusions, but Spiritually we always remain as perfect as the Laws of Nature and as Beautiful as the blooming of roses during Spring! This is crucial to me because it means that at any point no matter how far I may drift, I can reconnect with my True Self and find the most harmonious and fulfilling way to the evolution of my individual Soul.

As a Transformational Life Coach I often talk to and witness many people who are struggling with situations, circumstances and conditions that are robbing them from the opportunity to experience how magnificent God’s Creation truly is, them included, but unfortunately do nothing about it. Although I have been blessed to see and hear about others who have transformed their lives, I often wonder if there is any way we could change the statistics and significantly increase the amount of people changing their lives and consequently changing the world! Or Maybe I just need to continue expanding my awareness and TRUST that Infinite Intelligence has a Divine Purpose for everything!

After searching for so long for things outside of myself to make me happy and fulfilled, I have found that Infinite Source is really within ME and YOU and there is a part of me that wants everybody else to experience how awesome it is living life this way. Perhaps is because now that I have overcome these obstacles I find myself completely in LOVE with the Divine Presence flowing through everything and everyone. Or maybe it’s just that since I have dissolved the illusion of separation I know that I am ONE with all the Love, Joy, Beauty, Abundance and Harmony in the Universe and therefore I can’t help but to want to release this energy as the most important piece as to why my life ROCKS! So, what about your life… can you choose your destiny? Let me know! I love to learn from you…

Love and appreciation,
Darsana Roldan

You Have A Choice!

Good for you! You just made a choice to open your self to learning something new or be reminded of something you already know. Regardless, the point is that you are making choices all the time. Now imagine being able to make the right choices most of those times…  Although wrong choices are here just to let you know that you are going away from your path, they are not FUN! Wouldn’t you agree? I personally feel that I have made too many of those choices in this life, and I am done with them. I no longer believe in contrast, I am into consistency these days!

My guess is that you are probably thinking that you already know you have a choice, so what is my point. First lets bring some understanding into this dynamic exchange of energy that we are having. Knowing something doesn’t mean that you understand it and it definitely doesn’t mean you can use it to get the results you want. If you don’t believe me, just pay a great deal of attention to how many times people say, “I know that”, or ‘I heard that before”, but in the next breath or action they show you that they don’t know it, otherwise they would be making a different choice. So knowing is being able to apply it into your life and get the results you want!

Now, back to knowing that you have choices. Let me give you an example, that sometimes works better for me. Imagine that you sitting next to the Dali Lama in a very loud concert. He has some amazing things to say, but you cannot hear what he is saying. That is pretty much what happens when your inner voice, full of wisdom and intuition, is waiting for you to be silent, but since you are making a choice to continue to think and think, you missed your one to one appointment with the Infinite within YOU. But I am going to make the assumption that if you are reading my blog it is because you have a higher level of awareness than most people and you make the conscious choice to quiet your mind every day like I do.

Let’s continue with the same example since the first time it worked so good or at least it did for me, LOL. The music at the concert stopped for the intermission and you got to listen to the Dali Lama for a little while, and of course he gave you some powerful insights. But once the music started you began to listen to it, perhaps you justified having a beer or a glass of wine. Wait, what I am saying? You are reading my blog, so you would NEVER put mind altering drugs into your body temple. I am so sorry, I thought I was writing to another group of brothers and sisters. My apology. Where were we? I know, after listening to the Dali Lama, you started listening to the music and thinking about past memories or perhaps you slipped into an old mind habit of predicting the future, and all of a sudden, what seemed so powerfully insightful, escaped your mind. Oops! The point is that we have to make conscious choices to stop the noise from the outside world, but we also have to develop a discipline to stay connected and take immediate actions, otherwise, well, you know what happens.

Let me finish by adding this final point. The human mind is just a tool by which we co-create our reality. Quickly I want to underline OUR REALITY, because in that statement lies one of the most transcending understanding of human kind. We are co-creators in the Creative Process of Consciousnes and therefore that is why we can CHANGE our reality and the world by making Conscious Choices together. I know that was a mouth full; just take a few minutes and reflect on what that means to your life right now. What can you take responsibility for and make a conscious choice to change right now in your life because you have the power to do it ? Good, I am happy for you!

This is the key, it becomes a conscious choice when we have the ability to MASTER the mental faculties within our unlimited powers. So whatever it takes in your individual case, is what it takes, but you MUST do it! My advice is that you don’t compare yourself with anybody else. Most of the beliefs that are co-creating your reality come from your unconscious mind and only you can change them. We are ALL different in our humanity and for that reason, your journey has different choices than anybody else. The gift is that inherent within your human potential is the Power to CHOOSE and CHANGE!  If you don’t, you are still making a choice, but it is probably not the one you want!

Lets stay connected and support each other in making the choices that co-create the reality for One Love, One Wealth, One World!

Until next time, “Underneath The Illusions, Is The Desire to Be Happy”

Darsana

If You Are Going To Go For It, Why Not Go All The Way?

There is no point in taking any risk if you already know that you want more than what you are shooting for. Whether you say it is too much for you to handle or you call it your comfort zone, the point is… Why would you stop short if you already know you are stopping short? It is one thing to be ignorant, or to be experiencing denial, but to know and not do, is not to know..

Working with clients for over 18 years, I have probably heard just about every story in the world as to why people are not receiving what they want from life. If you look up the word victim in the dictionary, some of their pictures may be right next to it. If you are thinking that what I just said was mean, think twice. You know what mean is to me? To buy into their stories and become part of their drama. I didn’t choose to write this post to be a therapist or a counselor, I have already been there, done that, and moved on.

I am using this part of my blog to honor the authentic part of me that can no longer tiptoe around the issues or sit around and not say anything about the pink elephant in the room. So if you thought you were going to read something different, maybe you want to stick around anyway because there is a reason why you were attracted here in the first place. My intention is to bring truth as I see it, and the rest is not up to me. Sometimes our egos get the best of us and rob us from the joy of just being completely authentic and I did that for far toooooo long.

We all have things we want to say, or do, but once again we conditioned ourselves to believe that the reason we don’t say or do them, is because we don’t want to hurt others. That is a lie wanting to be truth. The least you can do is to own it. In order to transcend our fears, we first need to reveal them. Maybe you want to portray a certain image, or you are attached to what others think of you, or perhaps you have a false sense of security, who knows.  Again, this is not the place for therapy, you are capable of figuring out why you stop yourself short from experiencing the greatest gift anyone can give to them self, the gift of lovingly and passionately living an awesome life.

And by the way, if anyone, whether it’s family, friend or partner that can’t handle you being freaking happy and excited about life, then you have more work to do because your life is a reflection of the Consciousness you have until this moment in time. Which means that you can’t blame the circumstances, conditions or results in your life on someone else because you are completely responsible and you have within your Self the ability to make the necessary changes with of course the correct guidance.

So if you are seriously committed to going for it, don’t let your mind set stop short from the awareness you will need to receive it. The mind is just a tool to master and create the life you want, that it, it only does what it is programmed to do. You are the embodiment of the Spirit of Life. Let me finish with this…. everyone and everything will benefit tremendously if you go all the way, so do it!

Until next time, “Either I don’t get it, or you don’t get it, but it’s time to wake up”

Darsana