It’s Not What You Know, But What You Do With What You Know- Lesson 1

Lesson 1 – You Are Uniquely Different

Do you really understand what it means that we are all uniquely different? Have you ever considered how complex you are and to recognize your relationship with life? Do you take time daily to analyze that in one way or another everything has a direct impact on the quality of your experiences? I have been on this journey for over 22 years, and I can honestly tell you that not once have I worked with two different people that react the same way. Neither could I imagine anyone suggesting that taking a cookie cutter approach to overcome anyone’s challenges, regardless of how small you think they may be, could possibly be the best way to do it. But I can tell you one thing. The human potential is by far the most advanced and sophisticated force in the Universe and when certain things fall into place, the transformation happens quicker than what most people have been led to believe.

When talking with people, whether they are clients or not, I am always interested in the congruency between what they believe and how it manifests in their lives. Based on my experience people don’t often think about this correlation, unless they are confronted with some type of challenge. And even then, the deletion filters in our conscious mind play a trick on us, by leading us only to see those things that support what we want to believe as being the truth at that particular moment. It is so much easier for somebody else to see our mental patterns and habits because they are not emotionally, and in many cases, unconsciously connected to them. The question that often comes up is, “Why should I believe what somebody else is telling me, if they are doing the same thing that I am doing?” And I think this is a valid question and that’s why I recommend that everyone seriously consider who they are getting advice from. In another words, I don’t ask my plastic surgeon neighbor how to deal with my self esteem issues because I may end up with a nose job! Get my point?

I also noticed that most people don’t grasp the depth of their existence. How things like the food they eat or how much sleep they get every night, makes a significant impact in their ability to think clearly. Quite often I have witnessed a tremendous difference in people’s lives just by tweaking their diets and/or making some changes in their schedules. Now imagine how surprised they look when I start asking questions about their surroundings. How cold is it where you live? How much sunlight are you exposed to? Or how much nature (or lack of) is around you? There is no secret as to why more people experience depression in cities like Seattle, Washington. This is all part of your uniqueness, and I am only scratching the surface of the many layers when it comes to what’s unique about you and the things that play a role in your ability to deal with life challenges and consequently, your ability to alter the quality of your day to day experiences.

Now lets move into what James Allen in his book, ‘As a Man Thinketh’, refers to when he said, “All that man achieves and that he fails to achieve is the direct results of his own thoughts. His condition is his own, and not another mans. His suffering and his happiness are evolved from within. As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.” Although I wish Mr. Allen would have used female adjectives through his writing, I do admire the insights he shares. Or maybe he just recognized women as being more intelligent that men and didn’t think it all applied to them as well. LOL!

Anyway, second by second we are reacting or responding to our experiences in a way that either helps us build the life we desire or the nightmare we fear. I know it’s not easy, but neither is it to waste our days away. And it is not like it gets easier with time, if anything, it gets even harder. The truth is that everyone of us react uniquely different to the feelings, ideas, and the consequences of our actions. All of these things require examination before making significant progress. When dealing with clients I have to really spend time with them to get an idea of how aware they are, and most importantly, how willing they are to recognize their unique relationship with life.

I also know by my own experience that it is never fun to hear people say things like, “Your outer world, is a reflection of what’s going on inside you”, specially if you are dealing with some serious challenges. But you can change your perception and get excited because if it wasn’t for these life challenges, we would all be living in the dark. This is part of life and what makes us grow and evolve to the level that we are willing to take on. It’s one thing to say “I know” and quite another to do something with what you know!

Love and appreciation,

Darsana